Never ever OK to call a woman "fat!"
This week marks my 35th week of pregnancy, leaving five more weeks for our little bundle of joy to incubate until she's ready for her grandiso arrival! As I near the end of this incredible journey, I'm beginning to reflect on the early, mid and final days of my experience in pregnancy.
If I could point out one negative, and to be honest, I am curious how others mothers and moms-to-be feel about this ... lately I've had alot of people (again ... friends, family and strangers) call me fat, round, chubby, blown-up and the worst upon worst comment was from a woman at my workplace who called me "fatso," and while at 35 weeks it may be Ok (although not really, because hello people it's not FAT - it's a baby!), she uttered this atrocity at about 21 weeks!
If you want my opinion - it's NOT Ok to call a woman "fat" at any point in her life - pregnant or not, EVER! And if I could repeat this a million times - women who are pregnant can't even logically be called "fat" because the majority of weight gain is in the uterus and water weight - neither of which I recall being fatty tissue! So call me super sensitive, but when you're an average weight for the majority of your life, and all of sudden people of all sorts are calling you "fat" it takes a toll on your self-esteem. It's not as if pregant women don't have to endure enough already!
So how can you approach a pregnant woman and make a comment that is respectable and appropriate - in my mind it should center around the belly itself ... "Boy, you're baby bump has really sprouted!" or "Goodness, that belly of yours has really grown!" Be kind to all those prego chicks out there, and if at all possible avoid - "Man! You are sooo fat!" and "Good grief, you sure have gained a ton of weight since the last I saw you."