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Something men just don't understand

By September 07, 2010 , , , ,

I LOVE to shop!! I love finding good deals and occasionally splurging on an impulse buy I just can't live without. Every now and then I've had one of those days though when nothing fits or I just can't seem to find what I'm looking for ... and recently I experienced one of those days with my new post-pregnancy body. You can probably tell where this is going ...

Recently, I met up with my friend Liz @TwoMaidsAMilking and her girlfriends to shop for a bridesmaid dress for her upcoming nuptials this winter. I love weddings and it's quite an honor to be a part of someone's special day. And even better ... Liz let us pick out whatever dress we wanted, what a great bride!

So as I begin to try on some dresses that normally would fit just fine, I noticed I wasn't able to get the zipper up on one after another after another after another blasted dress. And nothing was looking like anything I would EVER want to wear in or at a wedding.

Thoughout my life I've basically been the same size, my weight has never fluctuated much at all, until now. I wanted to walk out of the dressing room and strut my stuff and look fabulous ... but I just wasn't feeling that confidence I once had. It was a difficult pill to swallow. The girls noticed my frustration and said "Meggie, you just had a baby a month ago!"

Yes, yes I know but it still didn't sit right with me. In the back of my mind, I was totally that girl thinking I'll just work out like crazy and lose the extra weight by the wedding ... I wanted to order that size I've always been my whole life, not the scary number the consultant wrote down for me!

I did finally end up finding a dress that was flattering. (I think anyways ... I still couldn't get the zipper up the stupid thing!)

So even though I had a great time with Liz and the other bridesmaids, I left with an uneasy feeling of a body that had changed and a confidence level that had dropped. Don't get me wrong, I'd do it all over again and be even 20 pounds heavier just to have my little girl in my life. She is worth it totally!

As I drove home from the big day ... I called Big D and told him about the experience. And although he was "understanding" on the phone, he really doesn't understand, because men don't have to deal with this issue. Men aren't judged for their "figure" or a number on the scale or how good they look in a pair of dress pants. They are lucky in that way.

I'm working on making peace with my new body and I'm anxious to start a workout routine once the doctor gives me the go ahead.

But ladies ... being fabulous and sexy isn't defined by the size dress you wear, it's about being confident in your own skin and loving yourself just the way you are! Words I've lived by and am working on reminding myself of thesedays.


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  1. Yeah, I was in my best friend's wedding 4 weeks after I had Adam. (See today's post.) It was interesting, although she picked a dress specifically to help hide my baby belly.

    I never did lose all the weight I gained with Adam. I just learned to dress a little differently, and I think I still looked as good as before, with my clothes on, anyway. :) It is definitely tough if you've never dealt with weight issues before (I hadn't.) Now, the way I've been eating, I'm sure I'll have the same problem next time, too. :(

    I think you've got several months before you get depressed about not being your old size. :)

  2. I had to throw out all of my shoes after having our girls! Nope, things just don't bounce back to where they used to be after having a baby (especially at 40 & 42 when "things" were on their way south anyway! ;-P).

    Embrace your new life and your new you and make each day its best!

  3. You are right: men don't get it.
    Try to shift your mindset... I've decided my lumpy thighs are a badge of honor. (At least that's what I tell myself.) I've made a conscious decision that with two daughters I can't be fretting over body image stuff. I've heard and read how girls will mimic what they hear from their moms. My goal has always been to raise confident daughters.
    I just couldn't figure out how the number on the scale went back to "normal", but my pants were still tight!
    My real pain, like Lana, is gaining a shoe size. It's way harder to find an 11, compared to a 10!!
    Cute baby! When are you going back to work?