Tripping from the Guilt Trip
After 28 years, I have discovered or pinpointed if you will - my ultimate pet peeve. I think I've been in denial for sometime that I even have pet peeves because if you know me, you know I'm pretty laid back and don't get peeved about much at all.
Whelp so much for that ...
So what is this recent revelation ... I ABSOLUTELY CANNOT STAND WHEN I GET THE GUILT-TRIP.
I'm not sure if I have a sticker on my forehead sometimes that says, "Hey, make me feel guilty about something, anything."
Ever hear the phrase ... "Some things are better left unsaid." Yes ... I like that one and I exercise it because I don't want to say something to make someone feel bad to make myself feel better. Unless maybe they are guilty ... of a CRIME!
Anyways, I'm afraid I'm coming off too harshly. I should explain where all this is coming from to better illustrate my point.
I have been breastfeeding Baby RayRay for 6 months. Yay...milestone achievement, right?
Or ... not.
Not if you're RayRay's sitter and nearly every Monday (for the past 4 months) she struggles to readjust to having a bottle and not Mommy. And who can blame her, Mommys are awesome!
RayRay is the only one at her daycare on breastmilk and my sitter is not 100 percent supportive of my journey to feed RayRay only breastmilk for 12 months. Let's be honest, I'm not sure she's even 50 percent supportive.
Don't get me wrong, she is absolute wonderful lady, wonderful with RayRay and just overall super super nice! But ... she's getting tired of fighting with RayRay and the bottle and gives me the guilt-trip about not switching her to formula, already.
So ensues the guilt-trip on Meggie. I get the guilt trip about not bringing enough breastmilk. I get the guilt-trip about not giving her any bottles over the weekend or holiday breaks. I get the guilt trip ... I think you get the point here. Listen, I'm sorry, but it's not real conveniant to pump (meanwhile RayRay is screaming) and then feed her a bottle in my off time. I pump enough at work when I get home, I'm kinda done with it!
As you can see this guilt trip thing really irks me, but its part of life. And soon enough I won't let it bother me
too much. But I'm not sure anyone likes the feeling of being guilty, whether you are guilty per se or not. So after the guilt-tripping, I go through like a solution phase, where I determine how I can make this person understand what's going on and come up with some sort of compromise so I can take the sticker off of my forehead.
In this situation, I've decided to try yet, another brand of baby bottles.
Playtex-MAYBE, if I feel like it. (She gets this attitude from her daddy)
How about ... The First Years Breastflow Technology. We'll see.